Episode 8: Breaking Free from Perfectionism & People-Pleasing: Healing Asian Trauma with Jessica Lan (2/2)

Why do so many high-achieving Asians struggle with perfectionism, fear of disappointment, and late self-discovery? 

In this episode of the Asian Rebel Club podcast, I talk with licensed therapist Jessica Lan about the deep-rooted cultural patterns that trap Asian Americans in cycles of people-pleasing, emotional repression, and rigid identities. 

We explore how these behaviors show up in careers, relationships, and even hobbies (or lack thereof), and why breaking free often feels like betraying family or community. 

Jessica shares her own journey from pre-med dropout to therapist, offering practical wisdom on rebuilding self-trust, navigating generational trauma, and the power of embracing imperfection. 

Whether you’re wrestling with parental expectations, marital dissatisfaction, or just figuring out who you are outside of achievement, this conversation is a lifeline.